ETJ兒童的特點 (ESTJ / ENTJ)

ETJ特徵
ETJ Traits

  • 極度樂觀、自信,相信他們永遠是對的
    Strongly opinionated and self-confident, they think that they're always right
  • 意志力強,獨立,聰明,有能力,他們對任何事情都感興趣,一直在問「為什麼」
    Strong-willed and independent. Intelligent and capable. They're curious about everything, and are always asking "Why?"
  • 精力充沛又極富熱情,對於身體運動很感興趣並活躍其中
    Energetic and enthusiastic. Active and interested in physical sports
  • 對於一個孩子來說,他們不同尋常地有力量,如同權威般的存在
    Unusually powerful and authoritative presence for a child
  • 他們對人友好並喜歡和人在一起,他們重視能力和知識
    They're friendly and enjoy people. They prize competence and knowledge
  • 非常誠實和直接,經常不會意識到也不會對其他人的感情感興趣
    Very honest and direct. Often unaware and uninterested in how others feel
  • 他們帶著權威性,快速地做出決定,他們可能看起來比實際年齡要大
    They make decisions quickly and with authority. They may seem older than they are
  • 他們非常有競爭性,自立自主,更喜歡領導而非遵守
    They are very competitive. Independent and self-sufficient, they prefer to lead than follow

潛在優勢
Potential Strengths

  • 他們通常有很強的不會輕易被撼動的自尊心
    They usually have a good amount of self-esteem that is not easily shaken
  • ETJ們是天生的領導者,理性又邏輯,他們傾向於貫徹他們自己的計劃和方案
    ETJs are natural leaders. They're very logical and rational. They tend to follow through on their projects
  • 他們會不由自主的把他們的想法製成很有結構性的計劃
    They are naturally driven to put their ideas or projects into plans and structures
  • 他們很友好,通常很容易地和他人交朋友
    They are friendly and usually make friends easily
  • 他們尊重期限並能夠在最後期限前完成任務
    They respect and meet deadlines
  • 他們通常很有能力,而且能夠完全掌握感興趣的東西
    They're usually very capable, and will completely master something that has interested them
  • 對錢很在行,通常知道如何賺錢
    They are good with money, and usually know how to make money
  • 他們能夠正確對待建設性的批評,並不覺得自己被威脅了
    They're able to take constructive criticism well, without feeling personally threatened

潛在劣勢
Potential Weaknesses

  • 天生的直言不諱和誠實會導致他們有時說些傷人的話
    Their natural bluntness and honesty causes them to sometimes say hurtful things
  • 極度具有的控制慾
    They can be extremely dominating and controlling
  • 壞脾氣,非常容易生氣,會非常傲慢
    They can have bad tempers, and get angry easily. They can be arrogant
  • 他們需要結構和秩序,讓他們適應新環境很難
    Their need for structure and order makes it difficult for them to adapt to new situations
  • 他們只能從他們自己的角度看問題,意識不到其他人的看法
    They can only see their own perspective, and don't recognize any one else's viewpoint as valid
  • 他們做決定非常快速,有時缺乏真實數據,以致不能繼續下去
    They make decisions very quickly, sometimes with no real data to go on
  • 他們不懂得其他人情感的價值,需要學會具有同情心
    They don't understand the value of people's feelings, and need to learn compassion
  • 他們傾向大聲並有攻擊性地說話,可能會因此捲入爭鬥
    They tend to be loud and aggressive, and may get into fights

ETJ學習方式
ETJ Learning Style

ETJ兒童極度理性和有邏輯,對於需要使用邏輯的任務能夠很好得完成。如果你試圖讓ETJ接受一個觀點,你需要對它進行有條理地解釋。理性的論證是讓他們快速理解(道理)的唯一途徑。
ETJ children are extremely logical and rational, and do very well with tasks that can be mastered using logic. If you are trying to impress a point upon an ETJ, you will have to do it logically. A rational argument is the only way to reach them effectively.

ETJ兒童欣賞結構,秩序和連貫性。規則和期望需要被清晰地闡述,並持續地執行。任務需要被有條理地計劃出來,以方便ETJ的操作。如果沒有清晰的計劃來說明如何完成一個任務,ETJ會創造一個他們自己的計劃,然後完成ETJ們是以目標為導向的,對於定下來的目標會全力完成。創造和定義清晰的目標,讓ETJ們去完成吧~
ETJ children desire structure, order, and consistency. Rules and expectations need to be clearly defined and consistently enforced. Tasks need to be planned out in order for the ETJ to be comfortable with performing them. If there is no clear plan for performing a given assignment, the ETJ will need to create a plan on their own before they can complete it. ETJs are very goal-oriented, and will work hard to meet defined goals. Create and define clear goals for the ETJ to pursue.

ETJ們很有表達欲,喜歡成為注意的中心。他們很有可能在沒被提問的情況下,就在課上發言,而且經常在他們還沒完全想清楚前,就給出答案。如果這種行為在課堂上製造出某種混亂,老師就會規定不准孩子們在舉手並點到名之前隨便發言。如果能清楚向孩子們解釋這條規則,並持續執行,ETJ會選擇遵守它。
ETJs are loud and expressive, and like to be the center of attention. They're likely to speak up in class without being asked, and often give answers before they have thought them through completely. If this behavior creates a problem in the classroom, the teacher could create a rule that no one is allowed to speak out unless they raise their hand and are called upon. If this rule is explained clearly and rationally to the child, and is consistently enforced, the ETJ is likely to respect it.

ETJ兒童非常誠實和公正。當他們意識到了任何不公,或規則的不平等時他們會變得焦躁不安。他們堅決地認為規則應該應用到每個人身上,不理解為了一個特殊原因而扭曲規則的狀況。他們甚至可能會親身擔起責任來,以督促規則的實施。
ETJ children are very honest and fair. They may become quite upset at any perceived unfairness, and inequity of rules. They strongly believe that rules should apply to everyone, and they don't understand bending rules for a particular case. They may even try to take it upon themselves to enforce rules.

ETJ們是具有高度好奇心的兒童,總是在問問題。老師應該儘可能清晰準確地回答他們的問題。如果不清楚改如何回答,老師應當實話實說,並提供解決問題的可能的途徑,比如說圖書館。老師不應該試圖把他們不知道的東西糊弄過去,因為ETJ很有可能會繼續詢問下去,直到得到了滿意的答案。
ETJs are highly curious children, and are always asking questions. Teachers should respond to the ETJ's questions as precisely and accurately as possible. If they're not sure how to answer a question, they should be prepared to say so, and to offer possible avenues for discovering the answer, such as library research. They shouldn't try to gloss over something that they don't know, because the ETJ will very likely pursue the question until it is satisfactorily answered.

ETJ兒童天生就不信賴新事物。他們通常對接受新概念有困難,而且可能一下就給與全部否定。當向ETJ介紹新事物時,老師應該把新觀念放置在一個ETJ已經知道的環境(語境)中。例如,當介紹除法時,老師應當說,「除法就同我們已知的乘法一樣,只不過轉換了規則而已」,來借此平息J型兒童的恐懼和不安。
ETJ children are naturally suspicious of new things. They often have difficulty accepting new concepts, and may reject them entirely at first. When introducing a new subject to an ETJ, teachers should present the new idea in the same context as something that the ETJ already knows. For example, when introducing division, a teacher could quell a J type's fears by saying something like: "Division is just like multiplication, which we already know. The rules are just switched around."

ETJ在控制掌握他們自己的東西時最滿意,最有自信心。他們高度評價他們的能力和獨立性。老師和家長可以通過詢問他們的觀點,尊重地傾聽他們的想法來鼓勵 ETJ這些方面的發展。獎勵已取得的成績,讓ETJ擴大對自己的事情負責的能力,也是一個促進他們健康成長的很好的方法。
ETJs get their best satisfaction and confidence from mastering something on their own. They highly prize their competence and independence. Teachers and parents can encourage this development in the ETJ by asking their opinions and listening with respect to their ideas. Rewarding achievements by increasing the ETJ's responsibility for doing things on their own is also an excellent way to promote their healthy development.

應該給予ETJ獨特的讚揚。通常的回應(像「幹得好」之類),對ETJ來說沒有任何價值。他們想知道究竟是哪兒他們幹得好了,以及為什麼這被認為是干得好。當給與ETJ兒童反饋時,請儘可能的具體
ETJ's should be complimented very specifically. Global feedback (such as "Good job!") does not have any value to the ETJ. They want to know exactly what they did well, and why it is considered good. Be as specific as possible when giving feedback to the ETJ child.

ETJ的特殊需要
ETJ Special Needs

ETJ兒童的發言會非常直接,這會導致他們在一些特定環境中說一些不適當的話。成人應當意識到,儘管他們可能說了些傷人的話,他們很少故意地為難人。他們只是在做他們誠實直接的自己罷了。他們也不應該為他們的行為感到愧疚。如果他們的直接真的導致了問題,你應該和他們說明白,提供具體例子並有條理地解釋為何他們的行為給人帶來了麻煩。
ETJ children are typically very direct in their speech. This will sometimes cause them to say things that seem unfeeling or inappropriate for a given situation. Adults should realize that the child rarely intends to be mean, although they may say something hurtful. They are just being their honest and direct selves. They should not be made to feel guilty about this behavior. If their directness is causing a real problem, you can speak with them about it, providing real examples and explaining rationally why their behavior is causing problems.

有些ETJ兒童具有身體攻擊性。他們可能會推搡其他孩子,或者進入到爭鬥中。對付這類行為最好的辦法是為這種攻擊行為制定下明確的規則。既然ETJ們容易被有條理的論證說服,向他們解釋他們不當行為的理論及現實後果會非常有效。這些規則應當被清楚地定義,並持續地執行。
Some ETJ kids have a problem with physical aggression. They might push and shove other kids, or get into outright fights. The best way to deal with this behavior is to set very clear rules that prohibit this type of aggressive behavior. Since ETJs are most impressed by a logical argument, explaining the logical and realistic implications of their hurtful behavior should be effective. These rules should be clearly defined and consistently enforced.

ETJ們有無窮的活力,並需要身體上的運動。讓他們有發洩能量的出口,這是很重要的。對父母或照顧ETJ兒童的人來說,一種有效途徑就是向他們提供身體運動上的機會,提高他們在團隊運動中的參與度。ETJ們對於團隊運動尤其擅長,因為他們能從社交和身體運動這兩個方面得到好處。他們也會運用這個機會鍛鍊他們的領導能力。
ETJs have a tremendous amount of energy and need to be physically active. It's important that they have outlets for all of this energy. One great way for parents and caregivers to provide their ETJ's with opportunities for physical activity is to promote their involvement with team sports. ETJs do especially well with team sports because they're able to benefit from the social aspect as well as the physical activity. They also may use the opportunity to practice their natural leadership skills.

ETJ女性經常接受來自我們社會的強烈的(暗示)信息,那就是她們需要降低她們的堅定和自信程度,來變得更女人一點。但ETJ女孩進入青春期時,她們會經歷一段難熬的日子,試圖讓她們強有力的天性與社會的女性標準相符合。她們得到社會明確的要求——既然你是女孩,你就應該更溫和一點。有時這些要求很不顯眼,但有時會很明顯。父母不應該落入指責ETJ女孩不夠女性的陷阱。這種行為可能會嚴重挫傷一個孩子自尊心,會讓他們對於自己成年後的魅力和性感心懷不安。父母應該表現出對他們的ETJ女兒的持續支持。這將會幫助她們保持她們天生的自尊和自信心,不管社會需要的與她們的天性有多麼得不同。
ETJ females often receive strong messages from our society that they need to tone down their assertiveness and self-confidence to be more feminine. As ETJ girls enter adolescence, they will probably go through a hard time trying to reconcile their forceful natures with society's feminine ideal. They get a definite message from the world around them that since they are girls they should be more gentle then they are. Sometimes these messages are subtle, but sometimes they are quite obvious. Parents should definitely not fall into the trap of criticizing their ETJ girls for a lack of femininity. That's the type of thing that may seriously damage a child's self-esteem, and cause them to be uncomfortable with their appeal and sexuality as adults. Parents should show clear and consistent support for their ETJ girls. This will help them retain their natural self-esteem in the face of a society that wants them to be different than they naturally are.

在另一方面,ETJ男孩接受著來自社會的關於他們「男人」特性的正面的信息。如果ETJ男孩太過認同這種支持,以致他們的佔有慾和攻擊性控制了他其他的人格特性,他們將很有可能在發展他們的F(情感)功能上面臨問題。F功能已經是ETJ上最弱的能力了,如果完全阻止它的發展,這將會是個重大失誤。
ETJ boys, on the other hand, receive positive supportive messages from our society about their "masculine" personalities. If ETJ boys value this support to the extent that they allow their dominance and aggression free reign in their personalities, they're likely to have real problems developing their Feeling preference. The Feeling side is already the weakest area for an ETJ, and it would be a big mistake to starve its development completely.

ETJ兒童不會天生地適應新環境,有時還會對變化或新事物感覺不舒服。父母和照看ETJ的人不應強迫ETJ兒童在準備好之前去接受新觀點或新體驗。把新體驗放在ETJ已知的框架體系中,會幫助他們接受新觀點。
ETJ children do not naturally adapt well to new situations, and are sometimes uncomfortable with change or anything new. Parents and caregivers should not force their ETJ children to accept new ideas or experiences before they are ready. Putting a new experience within the framework of something that is already known to the ETJ will help them to accept the idea.

「缺失」的字母
The "Missing" Letter

成人人格類型由四個字母組成,然而對於7到12歲的兒童來說,他們只用三個字母。丟失的那個字母到哪兒去了?它就在那裡,我們只是在一個人長到13歲前無法確定它是什麼。ETJ兒童要麼成長為ESTJ護衛者,要麼成長為ENTJ執行者。在他們發展的這個階段,他們是將選用感知還是直覺來輔助他們的思考功能,這不是很明顯。你將會看到這個孩子練習使用直覺和感知,直到他們定下他們偏好的功能。對一些兒童來說,確定他們「丟失」的字母是有可能的,但對很多孩子來說,我們只能在等幾年才能確定。
Adult personality types contain four letters, while for kids aged 7-12 we use three letter types. What happened to the missing letter? It's there, we just can't usually determine what it is until after a person is 13 years old. ETJ kids will grow up to be either ESTJ "Guardians" or ENTJ "Executives". At this stage in their development, it's not obvious whether they will choose Sensing or Intuition to complement their Thinking preference. You will see the child practicing both Intuition and Sensing as they settle down into their preferred function. In some children, it's possible to distinguish their "missing" letter, but for many kids we just have to wait a few years to be sure.