ETJ兒童的特點 (ESTJ / ENTJ)

ETJ Traits

  • 極度樂觀、自信,相信他們永遠是對的
    Strongly opinionated and self-confident, they think that they're always right
  • 意志力強,獨立,聰明,有能力,他們對任何事情都感興趣,一直在問「為什麼」
    Strong-willed and independent. Intelligent and capable. They're curious about everything, and are always asking "Why?"
  • 精力充沛又極富熱情,對於身體運動很感興趣並活躍其中
    Energetic and enthusiastic. Active and interested in physical sports
  • 對於一個孩子來說,他們不同尋常地有力量,如同權威般的存在
    Unusually powerful and authoritative presence for a child
  • 他們對人友好並喜歡和人在一起,他們重視能力和知識
    They're friendly and enjoy people. They prize competence and knowledge
  • 非常誠實和直接,經常不會意識到也不會對其他人的感情感興趣
    Very honest and direct. Often unaware and uninterested in how others feel
  • 他們帶著權威性,快速地做出決定,他們可能看起來比實際年齡要大
    They make decisions quickly and with authority. They may seem older than they are
  • 他們非常有競爭性,自立自主,更喜歡領導而非遵守
    They are very competitive. Independent and self-sufficient, they prefer to lead than follow

Potential Strengths

  • 他們通常有很強的不會輕易被撼動的自尊心
    They usually have a good amount of self-esteem that is not easily shaken
  • ETJ們是天生的領導者,理性又邏輯,他們傾向於貫徹他們自己的計劃和方案
    ETJs are natural leaders. They're very logical and rational. They tend to follow through on their projects
  • 他們會不由自主的把他們的想法製成很有結構性的計劃
    They are naturally driven to put their ideas or projects into plans and structures
  • 他們很友好,通常很容易地和他人交朋友
    They are friendly and usually make friends easily
  • 他們尊重期限並能夠在最後期限前完成任務
    They respect and meet deadlines
  • 他們通常很有能力,而且能夠完全掌握感興趣的東西
    They're usually very capable, and will completely master something that has interested them
  • 對錢很在行,通常知道如何賺錢
    They are good with money, and usually know how to make money
  • 他們能夠正確對待建設性的批評,並不覺得自己被威脅了
    They're able to take constructive criticism well, without feeling personally threatened

Potential Weaknesses

  • 天生的直言不諱和誠實會導致他們有時說些傷人的話
    Their natural bluntness and honesty causes them to sometimes say hurtful things
  • 極度具有的控制慾
    They can be extremely dominating and controlling
  • 壞脾氣,非常容易生氣,會非常傲慢
    They can have bad tempers, and get angry easily. They can be arrogant
  • 他們需要結構和秩序,讓他們適應新環境很難
    Their need for structure and order makes it difficult for them to adapt to new situations
  • 他們只能從他們自己的角度看問題,意識不到其他人的看法
    They can only see their own perspective, and don't recognize any one else's viewpoint as valid
  • 他們做決定非常快速,有時缺乏真實數據,以致不能繼續下去
    They make decisions very quickly, sometimes with no real data to go on
  • 他們不懂得其他人情感的價值,需要學會具有同情心
    They don't understand the value of people's feelings, and need to learn compassion
  • 他們傾向大聲並有攻擊性地說話,可能會因此捲入爭鬥
    They tend to be loud and aggressive, and may get into fights

ETJ Learning Style

ETJ children are extremely logical and rational, and do very well with tasks that can be mastered using logic. If you are trying to impress a point upon an ETJ, you will have to do it logically. A rational argument is the only way to reach them effectively.

ETJ children desire structure, order, and consistency. Rules and expectations need to be clearly defined and consistently enforced. Tasks need to be planned out in order for the ETJ to be comfortable with performing them. If there is no clear plan for performing a given assignment, the ETJ will need to create a plan on their own before they can complete it. ETJs are very goal-oriented, and will work hard to meet defined goals. Create and define clear goals for the ETJ to pursue.

ETJs are loud and expressive, and like to be the center of attention. They're likely to speak up in class without being asked, and often give answers before they have thought them through completely. If this behavior creates a problem in the classroom, the teacher could create a rule that no one is allowed to speak out unless they raise their hand and are called upon. If this rule is explained clearly and rationally to the child, and is consistently enforced, the ETJ is likely to respect it.

ETJ children are very honest and fair. They may become quite upset at any perceived unfairness, and inequity of rules. They strongly believe that rules should apply to everyone, and they don't understand bending rules for a particular case. They may even try to take it upon themselves to enforce rules.

ETJs are highly curious children, and are always asking questions. Teachers should respond to the ETJ's questions as precisely and accurately as possible. If they're not sure how to answer a question, they should be prepared to say so, and to offer possible avenues for discovering the answer, such as library research. They shouldn't try to gloss over something that they don't know, because the ETJ will very likely pursue the question until it is satisfactorily answered.

ETJ children are naturally suspicious of new things. They often have difficulty accepting new concepts, and may reject them entirely at first. When introducing a new subject to an ETJ, teachers should present the new idea in the same context as something that the ETJ already knows. For example, when introducing division, a teacher could quell a J type's fears by saying something like: "Division is just like multiplication, which we already know. The rules are just switched around."

ETJ在控制掌握他們自己的東西時最滿意,最有自信心。他們高度評價他們的能力和獨立性。老師和家長可以通過詢問他們的觀點,尊重地傾聽他們的想法來鼓勵 ETJ這些方面的發展。獎勵已取得的成績,讓ETJ擴大對自己的事情負責的能力,也是一個促進他們健康成長的很好的方法。
ETJs get their best satisfaction and confidence from mastering something on their own. They highly prize their competence and independence. Teachers and parents can encourage this development in the ETJ by asking their opinions and listening with respect to their ideas. Rewarding achievements by increasing the ETJ's responsibility for doing things on their own is also an excellent way to promote their healthy development.

ETJ's should be complimented very specifically. Global feedback (such as "Good job!") does not have any value to the ETJ. They want to know exactly what they did well, and why it is considered good. Be as specific as possible when giving feedback to the ETJ child.

ETJ Special Needs

ETJ children are typically very direct in their speech. This will sometimes cause them to say things that seem unfeeling or inappropriate for a given situation. Adults should realize that the child rarely intends to be mean, although they may say something hurtful. They are just being their honest and direct selves. They should not be made to feel guilty about this behavior. If their directness is causing a real problem, you can speak with them about it, providing real examples and explaining rationally why their behavior is causing problems.

Some ETJ kids have a problem with physical aggression. They might push and shove other kids, or get into outright fights. The best way to deal with this behavior is to set very clear rules that prohibit this type of aggressive behavior. Since ETJs are most impressed by a logical argument, explaining the logical and realistic implications of their hurtful behavior should be effective. These rules should be clearly defined and consistently enforced.

ETJs have a tremendous amount of energy and need to be physically active. It's important that they have outlets for all of this energy. One great way for parents and caregivers to provide their ETJ's with opportunities for physical activity is to promote their involvement with team sports. ETJs do especially well with team sports because they're able to benefit from the social aspect as well as the physical activity. They also may use the opportunity to practice their natural leadership skills.

ETJ females often receive strong messages from our society that they need to tone down their assertiveness and self-confidence to be more feminine. As ETJ girls enter adolescence, they will probably go through a hard time trying to reconcile their forceful natures with society's feminine ideal. They get a definite message from the world around them that since they are girls they should be more gentle then they are. Sometimes these messages are subtle, but sometimes they are quite obvious. Parents should definitely not fall into the trap of criticizing their ETJ girls for a lack of femininity. That's the type of thing that may seriously damage a child's self-esteem, and cause them to be uncomfortable with their appeal and sexuality as adults. Parents should show clear and consistent support for their ETJ girls. This will help them retain their natural self-esteem in the face of a society that wants them to be different than they naturally are.

ETJ boys, on the other hand, receive positive supportive messages from our society about their "masculine" personalities. If ETJ boys value this support to the extent that they allow their dominance and aggression free reign in their personalities, they're likely to have real problems developing their Feeling preference. The Feeling side is already the weakest area for an ETJ, and it would be a big mistake to starve its development completely.

ETJ children do not naturally adapt well to new situations, and are sometimes uncomfortable with change or anything new. Parents and caregivers should not force their ETJ children to accept new ideas or experiences before they are ready. Putting a new experience within the framework of something that is already known to the ETJ will help them to accept the idea.

The "Missing" Letter

Adult personality types contain four letters, while for kids aged 7-12 we use three letter types. What happened to the missing letter? It's there, we just can't usually determine what it is until after a person is 13 years old. ETJ kids will grow up to be either ESTJ "Guardians" or ENTJ "Executives". At this stage in their development, it's not obvious whether they will choose Sensing or Intuition to complement their Thinking preference. You will see the child practicing both Intuition and Sensing as they settle down into their preferred function. In some children, it's possible to distinguish their "missing" letter, but for many kids we just have to wait a few years to be sure.