IFP兒童的特點 (ISFP / INFP)

IFP特徵
IFP Traits

  • 非常理想化
    Very idealistic
  • 待事認真,親力親為
    Take things seriously and personally
  • 溫柔安靜
    Quiet and gentle
  • 極度敏感
    Extremely sensitive
  • 在陌生人面前害羞而有所保留
    Shy and reserved with strangers
  • 喜歡閱讀
    Enjoy reading
  • 樂於助人,想讓他人快樂
    Service-oriented, they want to please others
  • 喜歡動物和嬰兒
    They love animals and small babies
  • 可能會把東西搞得亂糟糟
    Likely to be messy and unstructured
  • 需要大量的愛和感情
    They need lots of love and affection

潛在優勢
Potential Strengths

  • 深懷同情心
    Deeply caring and empathic
  • 通常甜蜜而友好
    They're usually very kind and sweet
  • 悠閒,隨和,通常不惹麻煩
    Laidback and easygoing, they're not likely to create trouble
  • 能很好地適應新環境,接受變化
    They adapt well to new situations, and welcome change
  • 輕鬆愜意,不慌不忙
    They're usually relaxed, peaceful and unrushed
  • 通常極具創造力和美感
    Usually extremely creative and artistic
  • 真實而獨具個性
    They are original and genuine
  • 對待事情嚴肅而不輕浮
    Take things seriously, and aren't likely to be frivolous
  • 需要和諧,會是很好的調解者
    They need harmony, and can be good peacemakers
  • 對人對事忠誠奉獻
    They're faithful and devoted to people and causes
  • 通常忠於自己的信仰
    They're often quite faithful to their religion

潛在劣勢
Potential Weaknesses

  • 極度敏感,易被傷害
    They're extremely sensitive and become hurt very easily
  • 小時候不能很好地應用邏輯
    They cannot use logic well at a young age
  • 沒啥時間概念,經常遲到
    They don't really have a concept of time or schedules, so they are frequently late
  • 可能花錢無度,大手大腳
    May be reckless and irresponsible with money
  • 傾向於讓消極的想法在心中不斷構建擴大,直到發展為不健康的狀況
    Tendency to let negative thoughts build up inside them until it becomes an unhealthy situation
  • 不能客觀地看待事物——看一切事物都從自己的視角出發
    They cannot see things objectively – they see everything from their own point of view
  • 如果感到被拒絕或不被愛,會變得極度沮喪,鬱鬱寡歡
    If they feel rejected or unloved, they may become very depressed and moody
  • 拖拖拉拉,在完成任務上會有麻煩
    They are procrastinators and have trouble completing projects
  • 過於關注內在,以至於有時對於周圍的人完全無所覺察
    They are so internally focused that they are sometimes completely unaware of how anyone else is feeling
  • 在表達自己最深的感情時有困難,有時甚至不能覺察到自己的這些感情
    They have difficulty expressing their deepest feelings, and are sometimes unaware of these feelings themselves
  • 儘管在內心深處很是關心他人,但又過於關注自己,可能被視為自私自利
    Although they care deeply about others, they are self-absorbed and so may be seen as selfish
  • 經不起任何批評,被批評時會表現得極具防禦性和情緒化
    They cannot take any kind of criticism, and will become defensive and emotional when criticised
  • 不喜歡做決定,儘可能地延遲做決定的時間
    They don't like to make decisions, and will put it off as long as possible
  • 一旦決定,便將其視為「最終決定」,意識不到自己稍後仍可改變主意
    They often view decisions with absolute finality, and don't realize that they can change their mind later
  • 做事慢條斯理,有時顯得懶惰
    They naturally move slowly doing things, which makes them sometimes appear lazy
  • 難以堅持自我
    They have trouble asserting themselves

IFP學習方式
IFP Learning Style

IFP兒童通常喜好夢想,想像力豐富,看似沉迷在自己的世界中。通常擅長人文學科,例如語文(作文)、音樂、藝術、歷史。對於科學中與明顯與人有關的科目(如生物學)會感興趣。
IFPs often are dreamy and imaginative children, and may seem to be off in their own world. They usually excel in the Humanities, such as English (Writing), Music, Art, and History. They will be interested in Science classes that have a clear human connection, such as Biology.

IFP會抵制那些看上去缺少人情味兒的科目,因為他們看不出來這對人們到底有什麼用。如果跟IFP說清楚純粹邏輯的框架對人類的幫助,會讓他們更樂於面對 這一科。但邏輯仍是他們的弱項,在學習這科時得更有耐心才行。因為並不能自然地接受邏輯,也不容易看到純粹邏輯的價值,IFP在這門功課上處於劣勢。
IFPs will resist doing tasks that seem impersonal, for which they can't see how it affects the human element. Presenting sheerly logical tasks within the framework of how performing the task helps humans will help the IFP face the task more willingly. Logic is still not their strong point, so patience learning these kinds of tasks will have to be shown. Since they're not naturally logical and they don't naturally see the value of sheer logic, the IFP is at a disadvantage with these kinds of lessons.

在選專業與選課程這類需要做決定的事情上,IFP會遇到麻煩。他們往往對做決定很是恐懼,因為他們認為決定就意味著是最終的和不可更改的,又生怕自己做了 錯誤的選擇。旁人應當在這類需要做決定的事上幫著IFP兒童,讓他們學會自己做決定,並且得到鼓勵和支持。積極的支持會幫助IFP更信任自己做決定的能 力。
IFPs have trouble making decisions about which project they want to do, or which class they want to take, etc. They are often fearful of making decisions because they think that they are final and unalterable, and they're afraid of making the wrong choice. IFP children should be helped to make these kinds of decisions on their own, and they should be supported and encouraged in the decisions that they make. Positive reinforcement will help the IFP to trust their decision-making abilities.

IFP兒童在完成項目(作業)上會有麻煩,他們可能做到一半便興趣缺缺,轉而去做下一項令他們興奮的項目。IFP兒童需要懂得慎始敬終的重要性。他們或許 不能完成所有的項目,但至少可能完成大部分重要的,他們已經開始做的那些。在這裡獎勵制度,而不是懲罰制度會更能鼓勵他們——通常IFP一被懲罰或批評就 垮了。
IFP children have trouble following through on projects. They may lose interest halfway through, and move onto the next exciting project. IFP children need to learn the value of finishing what they start. They will not finish all of their projects, but they can be expected to finish at least the larger, more important projects that they have begun. This should be encouraged with a reward system, rather than a punishment system. IFPs are often crushed by punishment and criticism.

IFP的兒童經常分散精力,不喜歡做決定或是專注於某一件事上。為了糾正這種習慣,教師和其他成人應經常向IFP兒童強調「選擇了一件事,就努力做好」。幫助IFP強化這一觀念會對他們的成長極有助益,乃至會影響到他們的成年。
IFP children are frequently scattered in their priorities, and dislike making decisions or commiting themselves to one particular idea. To combat this tendency, teachers and other adults should frequently tell IFP children to "pick one thing and do it well". Engraining this idea in the IFP's mind will offer a significant gift to the developing IFP, and the adult that they will become.

當批評IFP或者給他們打較低的分數時,同時也得給他們一些積極的回應,免得IFP一受打擊,下次就不想做類似的任務了。
When giving constructive criticism or a poor grade to an IFP, also give some positive feedback so that the IFP is not frightened off from doing that type of task again in the future.

IFP的特殊需要
IFP Special Needs

IFP兒童(以及IFP成人)會遇到的最大的障礙就是他們自身極為敏感。IFP兒童得學著去明白,矛盾衝突不是他們總得放在心上的事兒。IFP的眼中的自 我與旁人對他們的評價息息相關。如果IFP感到自己是無條件的被愛與接納著的,他們可能會感到更加自信,更能經得起批評。然而,IFP可能終其一生都會對 待事物太動感情,將所有的批評都往心裡去。當糾正IFP時,家長始終要在批評他們的同時給他們一些積極評價。這將有助於讓他們明白,特定的批評不等於對他 們人格的全盤否定。
The biggest stumbling block for IFP children (and for IFP adults) is their extreme sensitivity. IFP kids need to learn and understand that conflict is not something they should always take to heart. The IFP's opinion of himself or herself is largely influenced by other people's opinion of them. If the IFP feel unconditional love and acceptance, they are more likely to feel self-confident, and will be able to handle some criticism. However, IFP's will probably have a lifelong issue with feeling things passionately, and with taking any criticism completely to heart. When correcting an IFP, a parent should always include some positive comment about the IFP along with the negative. This will help the child to know that a specific criticism is not an indictment of their entire character.

IFP兒童強烈的奉獻精神多少是甜蜜可人的,但也會給他們帶來問題——如果和別的事比起來,他們對讓別人高興更感興趣的話。他們會遇到的狀況就是,不可能 所有的人都滿意他們。IFP兒童要知道,有時在正確的時間做某事也可能惹得某些人不高興。他們同樣得明白,如果某些人對他們做的某事不滿意,也並不意味著 那些人憎恨他們。想讓別人不沮喪是個值得讚歎的目標,但在現實中並不總是行得通。
Their strong service-oriented attitide is in some ways very sweet and gratifying, but it also can create problems for the IFP child if they are more interested in pleasing people than in anything else. There will be situations presented to the child in which they will not be able to please everyone. The child needs to understand that it's sometimes OK to do something that might make someone else unhappy. They need to understand that if someone is unhappy with something that the IFP has done, that doesn't mean that they hate the IFP child. Avoiding making others upset or unhappy is an admirable goal, but it can't always be done.

IFP兒童的家長和教師需要儘可能經常地給他們積極的回應與讚賞。有些思考型的成人經常不習慣表達自己的愛與欣賞,覺得孩子們已經知道他們的感覺了,沒必要再喋喋不休。情感型的孩子需要聽到這些回應,在他們的小腦袋裡,往往沒有消息就等於壞消息。
Parents and teachers of IFP kids should give positive feedback and affirmation as often as possible. Some Thinking adults often don't express love or admiration. They believe that their kids already know how they feel, so there's no need to say it over and over again. Feeling children need to hear this feedback. If an adult doesn't give them any feedback at all, this is often equal to negative feedback in the Feeling child's mind.

IFP兒童應當被鼓勵更加積極自信。他們應被告知,表達自己的想法——即使沒人同意,或是讓某人不悅——是可以接受的。鼓勵他們表達自己的觀點,並支持和 讚賞他們的此類行為,這將會使得他們更加自信。即使你不能同意他們表達的觀點,至少可以稱讚他們敢於表達的勇氣。如果你的孩子在表達自我上遇到問題,那麼 在他們能愉快地表達自我前,千萬別批評他們的觀點啊。
IFP kids should be encouraged to show some healthy assertiveness. They should be told that it's OK to express their opinions even if everyone won't agree with them, or if their opinions make someone unhappy. Encouraging your child to express their opinion, and then supporting and complimenting their behavior will help them to become more assertive. If you can't agree with the actual opinnion that they express, at least you can compliment them on the fact that they are asserting themselves. If your child has a problem with asserting himself or herself, you should NOT criticize the opinions that they express until they show that they are comfortable with asserting themselves.

「缺失」的字母
The "Missing" Letter

成年人的人格類型用四個字母來描述,與此同時對於7-12歲的孩童我們用三個字母來描述。那個缺失的字母是怎麼回事兒?它在那兒,只是我們通常在13歲以 前沒法確定它到底是什麼。IFP兒童會成長為ISFP(藝術家型)或INFP(夢想家型)。他們究竟會選擇感覺或是直覺來輔助他們的情感傾向,在這個成長 階段並不明顯。你會看到他們會反覆地操練感覺與直覺功能,直至在更喜歡的那個功能上安頓下來。對有些孩子,我們可能會識別出他們「缺失」的字母,但大多數 孩子還得等過些年才能確定。
Adult personality types contain four letters, while for kids aged 7-12 we use three letter types. What happened to the missing letter? It's there, we just can't usually determine what it is until after a person is 13 years old. IFP kids will grow up to be either ISFP "Artists" or INFP "Idealists". At this stage in their development, it's not obvious whether they will choose Intuition or Sensing to complement their Feeling function. You will see the child practicing both Intuition and Sensing as they settle down into their preferred function. In some children, it's possible to distinguish their "missing" letter, but for many kids we just have to wait a few years to be sure.