INJ兒童的特點 (INFJ / INTJ)

INJ特徵
INJ Traits

  • 有鮮明的想像
    They have vivid imaginations
  • 對萬事好奇,總在問「為什麼?」
    They're curious about everything, and are always asking "Why?"
  • 享受與他人單獨相處的時光,而非投入大團體中
    They enjoy spending time one-on-one with others, rather than in large groups
  • 通常抽離入自我的世界中,有夢幻般的特質
    They're often off in their own world, and have a dreamlike quality
  • 喜愛藝術與音樂
    They enjoy art and music
  • 喜歡讀書,尤其喜歡幻想故事
    They love books, and especially enjoy fiction
  • 通常在真正參與社會情境前會猶疑觀望
    They're likely to hang back and watch before participating in a social situation
  • 非常孤僻,不常與他人分享自己的所思所想
    They're intensely private, and don't always share their thought and feelings
  • 喜歡建構,會被混亂與計劃外事件打擾到
    They like structure and are unsettled by chaos or unplanned events
  • 在運動項目上,喜歡個人運動而不是團體項目
    They prefer sports that focus on individual performance rather than team sports
  • 完美主義者
    They are perfectionists
  • 愛較真,易激動
    They're serious and intense
  • 與同齡人相比,看上去比實際年齡顯得老成
    They often seem older than they are, and may have older friends
  • 獨特而獨立,重視自己獨一無二的特質
    They are original and independent, and value their uniqueness
  • 不過分關注成績,但會想完全弄懂吸引他們的課題
    They're not overly concerned with grades, but they want to completely understand a subject that interests them

潛在優勢
Potential Strengths

  • 通常很聰明
    They're usually very intelligent
  • 能輕易把握全局
    They can grasp the big picture easily 
  • 能看到他們行動的任何深遠影響
    They can see any far-reaching consequences of their actions 
  • 非常足智多謀
    They're very resourceful 
  • 極富創意與想像力
    They are extremely creative and imaginative 
  • 容易想出好主意
    They easily come up with good ideas
  • 通常為同輩所歡迎
    They're usually well-liked by their peers 
  • 將會完全掌握吸引他們的課題
    They will completely master a subject that interests them 
  • 想要掌控自我的願望使得他們能夠為自己的行為負責
    Their desire to be in control of themselves makes them take responsibility for their actions 
  • 通常對自己的看法具有自信,本能地知道他們關於某事的意見才是對的
    They are usually confident in their ideas, and know instinctively when they are right about something

潛在劣勢
Potential Weaknesses

  • 注意力短暫
    They have short attention spans
  • 容易對細節和例行公事感到厭倦
    They get bored easily with details or routine tasks
  • 對於不感興趣的事,不會做任何努力
    They won't put any effort into doing something that doesn't interest them
  • 通常不去傾聽他人
    They frequently don't hear people
  • 一旦腦袋裡認準了某事,就會非常固執
    Once they have made up their mind about something, they can be very stubborn about it
  • 無視細節
    They ignore details
  • 因變化而不安,通常不能很好地適應新的環境
    They are unsettled by change, and don't usually adapt well to new situations
  • 在大的團體中不安,多少是被壓抑著的
    They're uncomfortable and somewhat overwhelmed by large groups
  • 對環境無所覺察,看似「抽身其外」
    They are rather unaware of their environment, and seem "out of it"
  • 自我中心,不能覺察到自己的言行會對他人造成何等影響
    They are rather self-centered, and may be unaware of how their actions or words affect others
  • 可能會專制而專橫
    They can be controlling and bossy
  • 儘管容易想出主意,但並不容易將想法執行
    Although they come up with ideas easily, they don't do as well implementing their ideas

INJ學習方式
INJ Learning Style

INJ兒童極為聰敏好奇,需要大量的智力刺激。當他們對某個課題感興趣時,自然想要知道關於它的一切。教師應準備向INJ兒童指出資料源的所在,在那裡他們可以學到關於課題的更多東西。
INJs are extremely curious and intellectual children who need a wide variety of mental stimulation. When they are interested in a subject, they will naturally want to know everything about it. Teachers should be prepared to point INJ children towards sources where they can learn more about the subject.

對於需要按部就班與死記硬背的科目,INJ兒童通常表現不佳。他們覺得這類事情著實無聊,刻意抵制去做這類事。他們也不喜歡重複做同樣的事。一旦他們做好 了一件事,他們就覺得已經做完,想要繼續做下一件。為了讓INJ對事情保持興趣,教師應當告知他們基本原理和預期的結果,讓他們自己去琢磨如何到達那裡。
INJ children don't do well with tasks that require following prescribed steps in a plan or rote memorization. They find these kinds of things extremely boring, and they will resist doing them. They also don't like to do things repetitively. Once they have done something once, they are done with it and want to move on to the next thing. To keep things interesting for the INJ, teachers should give them the basic theory and the desired outcome, and let them figure out how to get there on their own.

教師應當意識到INJ經常無法覺察周圍環境的弱點,意識到當INJ沒有聽到教師說什麼,並不意味著他們沒有去聽。有時INJ完全沉浸在自己的內部世界中,以至於關掉了對環境的感應。對這種性格,只能盡力去保持耐心。等他們長大些,自控能力就會好些了。
Teachers should realize the INJ's weakness of not always being aware of their environment, and recognize that if an INJ didn't hear the teacher, it doesn't necessarily mean that they weren't listening. Sometimes the INJ's private world overtakes the INJ to the point that they completely tune out their environment. As much patience as possible should be shown with this characteristic. INJs will develop some control over this as they grow older.

INJ愛拿主意,想把自己的想法變成系統或計劃。對這事兒他們樂於自己來,很少需要或壓根兒不需要指點。他們對自己的執行力極為自傲,當別人對他們指點太多時會感覺受威脅。甚至這對INJ來說幾近侮辱——因為他們極為看重自我獨立,視其為自尊的重要基石。
INJs love to come up with ideas, and naturally want to put their ideas into some kind of structure or plan. They want to do this on their own, with little or no direction. They highly prize their ideas and their competence at performing their projects, and are threatened by someone giving them too much direction. This is almost an insult to the INJ, who bases a great deal of their self-esteem on their independence.

INJ擅長獨立完成那些需要創造力的作業,例如科學作業或者寫作。他們可能並不太喜歡完成團體作業,儘管可能會在需要團隊合作的作業中表現得很好。
INJs thrive doing independent projects that require creativity, such as science projects or writing projects. They will probably not enjoy group projects as much, although they are likely to be fine working with one partner on a project.

對於INJ的眾多問題,儘可能地徹底回答。如果你確實不知道答案,就坦白告訴他們。向他們指出可能找到答案的途徑,例如去圖書館研究。
Answer the INJ's many questions as thoroughly as possible. If you don't know the answer to a question, be honest and tell them that you don't know. Offer possible avenues for discovering the answer, such as library research.

清楚且一致地表達規則與期望。INJ自然渴望秩序與規則。雖說他們並不想被完全告知到底要做什麼,但他們需要徹底理解任何規則。
Present the rules and expectations clearly and consistently. INJs naturally crave structure and order. Although they don't want to be told exactly how to do something, they need to understand any rules clearly.

INJ的特殊需要
INJ Special Needs

INJ兒童需要大量的時間獨處。他們將大部分精力投注自身豐富的想像中,因此需要極多的獨處時間來回覆能量。在學校裡待了一整天后,INJ可能一回家就直 奔自己的房間獨自待著。應當尊重你的孩子的需要,並明白等他們自己待夠了,才能準備好出來與你交流。別逼著他們待在你或其他人周邊,除非他們已經有了足夠 的獨處時間。如果INJ沒有機會獨處,他們會表現得暴躁易怒,精疲力竭。
INJ children need a good amount of time alone. They get most of their energy from within themselves and their rich imaginations, so they need adequate time alone to recharge their batteries. After a long day of school, the INJ may head to their room to spend some time alone. Respect this need of your child's, and understand that once they have spent time alone they will be ready to interact with you. Don't push them to be around yourself or others until they have spent some quality alone time. An INJ who doesn't get the chance to spend any time alone will be irritable, cranky and tired.

一旦INJ腦袋裡認準了某事,就會非常固執,不想讓步。在面對一個「站穩了腳根」的INJ時,花些時間向他們指出他們思路的明確而可取的替代想法。這將會幫助INJ變得不是那麼固執自大,抱守自己的想法。
INJs who have made up their minds about something can be quite stubborn and unwilling to compromise. When faced with an INJ who has "dug in their heels" about something, take some time to present them with clear and valid alternatives to their way of thinking. This will help the INJ to not become overly rigid, pompous and unbending in their views.

在社交上,青春期前的INJ兒童通常會相當有所保留,甚至會被一大堆人嚇到。在真正參與其中間,他們樂於稍作觀望。最好別在他們準備好之前,就拽著他們投 入社交中。允許他們先觀望看看,直到自己願意時再投入。如果你是非常外向而樂於交際的成人,別指望你家的INJ孩子跟你一樣。INJ通常喜歡跟人一對一的 交流,喜歡擁有三五知己勝過擁有一大堆點頭之交。當INJ再長大些,他(她)將會變得更社會化。與此同時,也要明白你的孩子在面對一大群人時並不感到舒 服,別讓他們因此而內疚。若你的孩子害怕獨自面對人群,那就陪著他去面對,或是讓他在這樣的場合叫上個好友。
Socially, pre-teen INJ's are usually fairly reserved and may be intimidated by large numbers of people. They like to watch for awhile before participating. It's best not to push the INJ to interact socially before they are ready. Allow them to watch first, and jump in when they want to. If you are a very extraverted or gregarious adult, don't expect the same behavior your INJ child. INJs usually prefer to interact with one person at a time, and enjoy having a couple of close friends rather than a number of acquaintances. As the INJ gets a bit older, he or she will probably become more social. In the meantime, understand that your child is probably uncomfortable with large groups of people, and don't make them feel guilty for that fear. If your child is afraid of walking into large social situations alone, you might arrange to walk in with your child, or have your child go to the event with a friend.

對於仍在進行中的課題,給出太多的建議或反饋反倒是對INJ的創造力的干擾。大部分INJ對於實際完成課題的興趣,來源於他們想要證實自己的內在的意象與 獨立性。任何外界的「干預」都會對INJ造成困擾,甚至可能導致他們懷疑自己的想法。在任何情況下,這都會導致他們失去對課題的興趣並放棄它。最好是在 INJ的課題完成之前,先別去評判。
Too many suggestions or feedback on a project while it is still going on may interfere with the INJ's creative energy. Much of the interest in actually doing the project comes from the INJ's drive to prove their inner visions and independence. Any "interference" from the external world will confuse the INJ, and it may cause them to doubt themselves or their idea. In any event, it will usually cause them to lose interest in the project and abandon it. It's probably best to wait until an INJ's project is finished before commenting.

一對一地同他們談論他們的想法。這將有助於INJ將他們的想法與外部世界的情境結合。對於他們極具個人性的想法如何與世界協調,INJ們並不能自然地有高度覺察。在他們年輕時,就培養他們談論自己觀點的習慣,有助於培養他們實際有效地運用自己的想法的能力。
Talk through their ideas with them one-on-one. This will help the INJ to put their ideas into context within the external world. The INJ doesn't naturally have a high awareness of how their intensely personal visions fit into the world. Getting them into the habit of talking through their ideas while they are young will help them develop the ability to apply their ideas realistically and effectively.

「缺失」的字母
The "Missing" Letter

成年人的人格類型用四個字母來描述,與此同時對於7-12歲的孩童我們用三個字母來描述。那個缺失的字母是怎麼回事兒?它在那兒,只是我們通常在13歲以 前沒法確定它到底是什麼。INJ兒童會成長為INTJ(科學家型)或INFJ(護衛者型)。他們究竟會選擇思考或是情感來輔助他們的直覺傾向,在這個成長 階段並不明顯。你會看到他們會反覆地操練思考與情感功能,直至在更喜歡的那個功能上安頓下來。對有些孩子,我們可能會識別出他們「缺失」的字母,但大多數 孩子還得等過些年才能確定。
Adult personality types have four letters, while for children aged 7-12 we use three letter types. What happened to the missing letter? It's there, we just can't usually determine what it is until after a person is 13 years old. INJ kids will grow up to be either INTJ "Scientists" or INFJ "Protectors". At this stage in their development, it's not obvious whether they will choose Thinking or Feeling to complement their Intuition preference. You will see the child practicing both Thinking and Feeling as they settle down into their preferred function. In some children, it's possible to distinguish their "missing" letter, but for many kids we just have to wait a few years to be sure.